larryours
04-20-2006, 02:28 PM
I know that as men, we are supposed to be strong and don't show emotion, there is nothing wrong with shedding tears at someones death, but I think we could by pass alot of the grief if we came out and told the individual while they are alive, how you feel about them, if you care about someone tell them before it's to late.
Maybe we can't bring ourselves to express ourselves to someone we care about when they are alive, but once they are gone, then it's too late. If you have a problem with it in person, then do it on their birthday, Christmas or some other time, in a card. I'm sure a note would help them understand how you feel about them.
We put Roy to rest in the Stonewall Cemetery, outside Manassas, Virgina,(Cemetery is west of the Stonehouse) Civil War battlefield, which was fitting, since Roy was layed to rest with other soldiers( Civil War to present) Roy was a WW11 Veteran.
However, I'm the type who remembers them as when they were alive, I didn't view Roy in the casket, simpley, because thats how I would remember him,
I was doing okay, untill they played the song, " Go to Rest High on that Mountain" That's when the tears began to flow, thinking back 25 years ago deer hunting ,then bear hunting later, when we got back to the house, I told my son that there was something I had to do, I got the keys for the garage, my son, Roys' 2nd grandchild , Scott and I went out, there were some bottles of beer in the fridge. We drank them, in Roy's memory, because there will be a void that will never be filled
And I'll never drink another beer in that garage, because about a week before Roy's death, they surveyed for a new 4 lane highway & house complex which will take the garage & house, so I took pictures of them both, and the Song, " You can never go home, seems fitting, because 30 years of memories will still stay with me, but the physical structures will be gone forever.
This is so with alot of deer camps across the U.S., progress does
kill alot of places where memories have been made.
Roy built the house and garage many years ago with his own hands(he was a carpenter) and the help of his family, maybe it was to be,( his death )that he wouldn't have to see his life's work( the home he built and lived in) for 40 + years,destroyed in the name of progress, while he was alive. I couldn't have asked for a better father-in-law,
So a note to the younger hunters, if you have a good friend, your father, father-in-law, grandfather, ect.( don't forget the ladies, wife, mother,mother-in-law, grandmother. Tell them how you feel before it's too late, and then you can't. I think it will make everyone feel better. Sometimes the only thing you will have left will be the memories .
Maybe we can't bring ourselves to express ourselves to someone we care about when they are alive, but once they are gone, then it's too late. If you have a problem with it in person, then do it on their birthday, Christmas or some other time, in a card. I'm sure a note would help them understand how you feel about them.
We put Roy to rest in the Stonewall Cemetery, outside Manassas, Virgina,(Cemetery is west of the Stonehouse) Civil War battlefield, which was fitting, since Roy was layed to rest with other soldiers( Civil War to present) Roy was a WW11 Veteran.
However, I'm the type who remembers them as when they were alive, I didn't view Roy in the casket, simpley, because thats how I would remember him,
I was doing okay, untill they played the song, " Go to Rest High on that Mountain" That's when the tears began to flow, thinking back 25 years ago deer hunting ,then bear hunting later, when we got back to the house, I told my son that there was something I had to do, I got the keys for the garage, my son, Roys' 2nd grandchild , Scott and I went out, there were some bottles of beer in the fridge. We drank them, in Roy's memory, because there will be a void that will never be filled
And I'll never drink another beer in that garage, because about a week before Roy's death, they surveyed for a new 4 lane highway & house complex which will take the garage & house, so I took pictures of them both, and the Song, " You can never go home, seems fitting, because 30 years of memories will still stay with me, but the physical structures will be gone forever.
This is so with alot of deer camps across the U.S., progress does
kill alot of places where memories have been made.
Roy built the house and garage many years ago with his own hands(he was a carpenter) and the help of his family, maybe it was to be,( his death )that he wouldn't have to see his life's work( the home he built and lived in) for 40 + years,destroyed in the name of progress, while he was alive. I couldn't have asked for a better father-in-law,
So a note to the younger hunters, if you have a good friend, your father, father-in-law, grandfather, ect.( don't forget the ladies, wife, mother,mother-in-law, grandmother. Tell them how you feel before it's too late, and then you can't. I think it will make everyone feel better. Sometimes the only thing you will have left will be the memories .