I'm not mean although at the time I was called a few unmentionable terms. I just had my rules and I told them if they didn't like my rules they could make their rules when they were living independantly. Another words don't get your a$$ caught on the door knob as you depart.
I was widowed and with five youngins' and doing my job in the Military with 10>16 hour days I didn't need any extra trouble.
I must have motivated them because 3 finished college and the other two got good jobs. None of them were in any trouble cause they knew they would suffer the wrath if they did. A lot of times I didn't get to give them all the time they needed but they understood. They might not have liked it, but they understood.
They have families of their own now and when we talk or chatter on cyberspace and they say thanks Dad for being the way you were. It gives us a bearing on how to treat our kids. Setting goals and always doing the right thing. I don't acknowledge what they say, I just get a feeling of satisfaction and a smile on my face.
I now have 5 wonderful Grandchildren and 3 Great Grandchildren that they gave me with love. Sides that I have all these great places to visit whenever I want.
And congrats on the 1600 post.
Best wishes
Bill